Tuesday, June 14

Upset, and missing my Girl.

I just watched The real housewives of OC reunions.   I was angry.  Not because  gretccccchen  or Alexa   but because  how  Slade has no compassion towards his ex and their son.  I was in awww when I heard not a single word about  I hope G gets better, or cancer never comes back, or  WE ( Gretchen and Slade ) going to be there for Gray forever..  I WAS MAD. 

When Regina was patient in CHLA we had the chance to see slade and his son couple of times in CHLA.       Let me tell you. I was not surprised.  All the nurses were around them, babying, awing. hihihihiing  and so on.  Of course "he was a celebrity" . I even told slade when passing him that I LOVE the show he is on.  And I did  not lie . I really love OC housewives. B U T 

 WHen I went to CHLA I already had  history with St Jude. ANd awesome history. I was trained well to take care of cancer patient.   In CHLA at first I hated it.  Everything was done differently.   REgina had broviac line and her dressing was changed differently.  First time we got a rude asian nurse. And Now I get it why she was rude. In asia people are like this.  THey don't care if someone gets hurt . They are just doing their thing. ... And regina got hurt during her  dressing change.  Nurse rubbed her  skin with rubbing alcohol until she was RAW. Her skin was red and she was in tears, but she was not crying.  I told the nurse to slow down and do it in my way, because I know what works with my girl. ..  Nurse did not listen to me.  She said this is how it  is easier to do for her.

 I called  to CHLA the same day and complained and I got  reply from head nurse or whoever she was.   " I am sorry mrs Tan , we know you are   experienced  MOM, but we actually have the best    system to change line dressings  and  blahblahbalba... I just listened to her and told her... IS IT OK TO 7 Year old skin to start bleeding during line change? Is it ok to get infected while her counts are low?   I was told sorry and we look into it.... And from that  day on THAT  NURSE never really spoke to me again. BUT she did spoke to other cute cancer patients. and I felt sick. I don't like that nurse to this day.  She was taking sides , and not thinking about patients.  
And  that nurse was always all over SLade and his son. I was it , we were right there getting hard chemo, Regina throwing up ,  sad.....

  But whenever we got there, she never even made eye contact or bothered to say HI, Regina, how are you doing. You are so cute today, Look at your dress... We saw how she treated other patients, She was very selective......    I felt she was very unfair. 

BUT ,, Regina did have her favorite nurses one of her was Marlene.  She always made us smile and laugh.:)  And we are thankful that we get to see such an passionate person who truly cared about her patients.   Everybody loved her.

Anyway. I know, I still feel bitter towards some people in my past, but I can't change it.  I know it is time to give up and move on  and focus all the good there is.  But at least once a week I hear stories from people I know how their loved ones were miss treated..... just because...

 AHH... I just hope that Slade will  step out or Gretchens shadow and starts   doing what he is supposed to.       Being a mom to a cancer kid is hard,  and I can't imagine how hard it is to have an ex who is dad to that boy who's lis fighting hard every day to  m a ke   it   work.
I just hope  it stops soon, because it is not right.

OC  housewives and husbands need to grow up...

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